Month: September 2019

Limiting Screen Time

We know we need to limit our kids’ screen time but how often do we parents think about our own screen time and how it impacts our children?  There are countless articles on the dangers of screens for our children but now more concern than ever is being raised about parents’ screen time.

I stay home with my sons two days a week and countless times I’ve been at the park/swim lessons/restaurants with them and nearly every parent is on their phone.  They aren’t interacting with each other and certainly aren’t interacting with their children.  Not only our we losing an opportunity to build our village but we are losing out on precious moments with our children that we can’t get back.

This article from psych central discusses five reasons to put our phones away and be present for our children.

The last point stating that “Our kids need our first priority to be our relationships with them, not with our phones” should truly be all we need to read.  There is so much for us to teach our children and they crave our attention, our encouragement, and our love.  When our heads are buried in our phones we aren’t living real life and providing our children with all they need to properly develop and deserve.

I’ve deleted social media apps from my own phone in an effort to disengage from it.  My wife struggles more so and recently experienced a little gut punch when our 5-year-old said he didn’t want her on her phone so much.

So what can you do?

  • Have a designated place to put your phones when you get home and basically don’t touch them until the kids are in bed. This especially means NO PHONES AT THE DINNER TABLE.  This is our current strategy and the one we are finding the most success with.  It gives us uninterrupted, quality time with the kids and spouse and it also feels good to disconnect nightly
  • Turnoff notifications for your apps. DO THIS.  Don’t be a slave to every little ping your phone makes.  Very little of it is so important that it can’t wait a couple hours
  • Use apps the monitor usage and post reminders to put your phone down. A list can be found here but my wife warns they are effective at first but can be easy to ignore over time
  • Remember your manners! When your engaged in conversation or an activity with your child, don’t let a chirp from your phone interrupt the moment.  That new Instagram post will be there later

Speaking of screen time, have you seen it impact your child?

The near nightly question we dread: “Can we have a video game night?”

Our 5-year-old loves playing video games, even on our old original and super Nintendos.  He also loves to watch people play video games, Mario Brothers specifically, on YouTube.  But we noticed behavior changes while he played and after playing video games or viewing someone else playing them.

Things came to a head when we let him watch A LOT of Mario Brothers on YouTube one Saturday morning as we slept in along with the baby.  When we went to his t-ball game later at lunchtime he struggled through some tears when he didn’t have the chance to field the ball and then as he whiffed at bat and a few kids laughed.  At the very end of the game he and another boy tussled over fielding the ball and our son kicked his teammate.  We were gob smacked, apologetic, and deeply embarrassed.  We were also confused because this just wasn’t our son.

This well-publicized article in the New York Post from 2016 may feel a little over-dramatic in it’s opening but its warning was not lost on us.

My wife, a former software engineer and current Information Technology analyst, shares my low-tech approach to parenting for many of the exact concerns raised in the article.  Because our children are young we didn’t know where the line was exactly but we certainly figured it out the hard way.

The YouTube app is no longer on our TV and video game night occurs about once a month.  The tablet has never been a “thing” at our house but he does get to play on one infrequently at the sitters so he’s not completely void of technology because, after all, it is the future.  He still asks almost daily to have a video game night and as much as we want to say yes, we continue to say no most of the time.

Setting the technology boundaries with young ones is pretty easy as long as you can stick to it through the tantrums.  But what about older kids that have already been given a long leash when it comes to technology (or no leash at all)?  A conversation about their usage is likely in order and perhaps it needs to be a family discussion if you found you struggle with your usage as well.  Consider a gradual transitions and/or replacement activities to help wean them off.  You can find some valuable tips on limiting screen time here:

And remember, kids learn behaviors from their parents.  If you are spending too much time on your device then they likely will too.

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Allowing Opportunities


Being a parent in today’s world can be overwhelming and frankly scary. We are constantly being reminded of the ‘bad’ things that could happen to our own precious children due to being surrounded by social media. We are also more aware and educated about development which is a blessing but can lead to anxiety and worry.

As a pediatric physical therapist, it is not uncommon for me to see children who are diagnosed with developmental delay or have sensory deficits due to lack of exposure. This meaning the child just has not been exposed to or given the opportunity to practice a given skill or time to appropriately receive sensory input. For example, I was working with a 15-month-old who had just began independently walking. I took her outside to walk on the grass for a new challenge on an uneven surface. When she fell and touched the grass she began to cry because she did not like the feeling of the grass. Mom then explained this was her first-time feeling grass (at 15 months old). Another example are my toddlers that have weakness in their legs. When I take them to the gym to climb the jungle gym, I can feel the anxiety rise in their parents because they have never let the child climb a jungle gym before. If they are constantly being stopped from climbing and other activities similar to this then they may develop weakness in their legs when compared to their same aged peers.

I have caught myself with my own 2-year-old son, preventing development of a skill. He had difficulty using a spoon and fork and was starting to get delayed in this fine motor activity. I realized that he was delayed because I was not allowing him to practice. Sure, I let him use a spoon, but I would quickly take it away as soon as he would make a mess. Simply because I did not want food all over the rug or over his new shirt.

I understand that children do have delays and/or sensory deficits even when given all the opportunities possible. I just want to be a reminder that children need opportunities to grow, learn and explore at ALL ages. Not just growth in a physical way but a social and emotional way to. Take the cell phones away in the waiting room and let them socialize with the kids next to them. Let them climb the ladder to the slide (just stay near them for safety). Allow them to make a mess with their spaghetti when learning to use a utensil (maybe just remove their new shirt or put a bib on). We will never know their true potential if we are not facilitating and allowing them the opportunities to show us what they can do.

Written by: Sandra Koopmans PT, DPT

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Developmental Checklist

Is your child meeting their developmental milestones?